Genealogical Rabbitholes

I really ought to enter a lot more of my genealogy into WikiTree. I have entered four people in there, including myself. No matter — I can find ancestors of mine who are already entered into WikiTree, and learn from there.

Here is the WikiTree entry for Hosea Curtice (b. 1739), about whom I wrote a couple days ago. (I come from a long line of Hosea Curtices, so I have to specify the birth date). He was married to Susannah Kellogg, whose genealogy leads in interesting directions. 1) She is part of the Kellogg family, which in another century brings us to Kellogg’s Corn Flakes and in this past century to the Kellogg Foundation. 2) You can trace a connection from Susannah Kellogg to Emily Dickinson. I am quite proud to have Emily Dickinson as my cousin, as the title of our blog would imply. 3) Susannah’s great-grandfather Samuel Kellogg (b. 1669) was kidnapped by Indians in 1677 and hauled off to Canada, eventually to be ransomed out of captivity. His mother Sarah Day was killed in the raid where Samuel was captured. Sarah Day is also the common ancestor I share with Emily Dickinson, through an earlier marriage of Sarah’s.

This raid happened in the aftermath of King Philip’s War, and there is an account of it on the website for the wonderful book Our Beloved Kin: Remapping A New History of King Philip’s War, by Lisa Brooks. I need to reread her book: it’s an illuminating journey into 17th century Indigenous geographies.

Can't Get You Out Of My Head

One of the things I noticed about my last few days with my mother was how often she brought up the name of “the Colonel,” the husband of her Aunt Eleanor, who had rowed over to great-grandpa Sam’s boat with a shotgun saying he was taking Eleanor to marry.

This man was volatile, irascible, and in his later years blind, and my grandmother went to his house regularly to tend to him after Eleanor died of breast cancer. My mother once told me the story of how he had tried to kill her when they were all staying at a house in Acapulco — she was so frightened she jumped out of the window into the scorpion-infested night and pounded on her parents’ window. Whether this actually happened or not is irrelevant: she was deeply traumatized and this man occupied space in her head up until the end.

Would therapy have helped her? Who knows? She was so fond of one of her cousins, Henry, but seeing him necessarily meant being in the company of the dreaded Uncle Edwin. Who insisted that his staff answer the phone with “the Colonel’s residence, this is the maid speaking.”

We are no strangers monstrous men. One of them is even president. But let’s not give these reprobates any more power by allowing them room in our heads. Mum, I wish you could have been free of this. I never met the guy but I hate him on your behalf…

Unpacking

When I was at my mother’s with my siblings, we went through literally thousands of photographs. Some of this was while she was still alive, a fun trip down memory lane, camping in Spain or visits to our boarding schools in England and then many photos of California once she and Dad had moved back. She usually got two sets of prints of every roll of film she took, and she took lots of rolls (she must have culled a lot of my father’s photos a long time ago).

I’m not sure what to do with what I brought back, a tiny sample of photos mostly of her and of me, but it was another exercise in memory, nostalgia, and yes, loss. I am waiting to go through the writing of hers that I brought back, since I did a lot of that while I was still in Maine, recycling or shredding a lot of duplicates or writing by others.

Curation and archiving is an interesting activity, especially when you’re not sure what the purpose is. I will let these things sit a while until I’m more clear (she did ask specifically that I read, and then shred, some of her journal writing).

The World Isn't Fair

Confession Time